Teen boys generally enter their adolescent years as rambunctious, talkative, young men interested in just about everything that keeps their attention. And then, bang, something happens, something deceptive you cannot put your finger on that doesn’t happen overtly. But slowly, your usually kind boy, the little boy who loved to be tickled and play with you may roll his eyes at a conversation and leave you, especially in public. He starts to internalize his deepest thoughts and dreams alone, if at all, rather than with you. He becomes obsessed with gaming, friends, and even girls. He may drop out of soccer, football or basketball, quit the youth group, and declare that his best friends are his family.
As he begins hormonal changes, anger can take the family for a surprising turn of conversation at dinner as he insists, he wants to eat in his room. He never wants to have a night at home with mom and dad or spend time with his siblings. It’s hard not to ask yourself where you may have gone wrong. You are not alone in this quest. Although some rebellion is normal, there is no excuse for outright anger towards you and his siblings.
For teen boys, becoming a man, and proving manhood to their friends for respect can cause rash decisions and poor choices. This downward cycle becomes a vacuum that some boys have difficulty coming out of. Because this situation is truly not who the teen boy is, he becomes even more angry and frustrated, setting off anger and potential aggravation that can turn into violence if escalated. Does your teen tend to yell and scream or say hurtful, mean, disrespectful things? Do they throw things, kick or punch walls, break stuff? Hit someone, hurt themself, or push and shove others around?
For most people who have trouble harnessing a hot temper, reacting like this is not what they want. They feel ashamed by their behavior and don’t think it reflects the real them, their best selves. Managing anger is about developing new skills and new responses. As with any skill, like playing basketball or learning the piano, it helps to practice over and over again.
Sometimes anger is a sign that more is going on. People who have frequent trouble with anger, who get in fights or arguments, who get punished, who have life situations that give them a reason to often be angry may need special help to get a problem with anger under control.
Here are some signs that your teen may need help in dealing with their anger:
1. They have a lasting feeling of anger over things that have either happened to them in the past or are going on now.
2. Irritable, grumpy, or in a bad mood more often than not.
3. Consistently angry or raging at themself.
4. Anger that lasts for days or makes them want to hurt themself or someone else.
5. Often in fights or arguments.
Anger is a strong emotion. It can feel overwhelming at times. Learning how to deal with strong emotions — without losing control — is part of our program that restores troubled teens to health. It takes a little effort, a little practice, and a little patience, and we’re here to help your teen effectively deal with their anger.
If your teenager is struggling with any of the following issues Caribbean Mountain Academy is the solution.
Caribbean Mountain Academy is a Christian therapeutic boarding school and residential treatment center for at-risk teens. The school offers year-round enrollment to English-speaking teenagers in crisis (Ages 13 – 17). The property was purchased in 2012 and has since been owned & operated by Crosswinds.
Caribbean Mountain Academy offers a wide variety of opportunity that aims to unify families and turn today’s struggling teens into tomorrow’s leaders. Program highlights include accredited academics with opportunities to recover lost credits, family and individual counseling, service projects in the local community and adventure activities only found on a Caribbean Island. Your teenager can explore waterfalls, hike mountains, visit the beach or go white water rafting!
Our campus spans 30 exotic acres and features a fully-equipped weight room, basketball court, soccer field, and much more. The priceless views, 24/7 supervision, mentoring, and (optional) spiritual discipleship from staff that desire to see your teenager thrive give your child a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for a fresh start!
The goal of our program is to equip our students for a healthy life. Our goal is not to solve all of their problems but help them to be able to work through things in a healthy way while becoming healthy themselves. We do this by teaching them how to identify a good vs. a poor choice. Showing them how to navigate those situations and walk out better choices. We then allow them to practice those skills and then prepare them for reintegration into everyday life.
If your teen boy is struggling with rebellion, anger, substance abuse, or lacking in personal responsibility, call Caribbean Mountain Academy at (866) 318-7392 to speak to our boarding school admissions staff.